Thursday, March 26, 2009


When does that line occur, between the good fight and the bad fight? Between the fights where words are said, feelings are hurt, but issues get resolved and the fights that cut. Cut you down, cut your heart, cut your strings and the ties that bind.

When can you love someone and yet no respect for the decisions made? When stubbornness rears its ugly head and there are four feet planted firmly in the ground apart from one another. When 'talking it out' dissolves into angry words and frustrated echos. When you'd be better off arguing with a stranger. When you cannot see someone's side, nor do you want to and you know they cannot see yours on the horizon.

When do you call a truce without losing your stance, your convictions? When you cannot see the fight ending and yet cannot, no will not stand to back down. When you cannot see a change happening. Yet you love the person. When do you go back to the way things were when you are not able to change the way things are? Do you lose respect when someone disrespects you? Do you lose self respect by going along with it? When you aren't sure what tomorrow brings but hope at some point there will be a peace flag rather than sharp tongues. When you know it's worth it to be the Drama Queen. When you are not sure how to move forward from here.

When does it end when there is no end in sight?


Anonymous said...

If you even have a hint of these thoughts the person in question is a life wrecking idiot who needs to be avoided at all costs.

Tricia said...

I wish I knew :( and I don't think previous commenter is right. When two stubborn people get together this is bound to happen from time to time. In my 8 years of marriage it has happened 3 times, unfortunately once was last week and I'm still sad about it. But you do get past it eventually.

Mike said...

I didn't know you were married?

Candy's daily Dandy said...

ohhh, that's a tough one.

I hope you find the common ground and the truce. Different points of view are normal and can be healthy-part of what you love about the other.

Don't loose yourself because you want to give up the fight. It's good advice and one I should follow myself. We've all been through it. Hopefully, this too shall pass.

Hillary said...

I don't agree with the first commenter.

I think the line occurs when you find yourself having to compromise your convictions. I am an extremely stubborn person and so is my husband. However, the fights we have (the ones where neither of us will back down) never cause me to compromise myself or my beliefs.

Paula said...

I'm no help here as i always tend to be the one to back down, regardless of the situation or how i feel.

Meghan said...

Joyless- No,I'm not going to cut the person out of my life. I want resolution, not cut ties.

Tricia- I'm sorry about your fight, but the fact that you're getting past it gives me hope.

Mike- Not yet, as far as I know....damn Vegas.

Candy-thanks :)

Hillary-sage advice, thank you :) Maegan said...

oh fights are just horrible. words are screamed just to be mean ...but you can never seem to forget the worst ones.

Random Musings Of My Life said...

Wow.. Well I married that man, in 10 years we have maybe had 3 "real" knocking our head on the walls, so angry my skin would crawl.

It will pass. And its about compromise. And its also about some times being the bigger person and giving in first. You do not have to agree, but you can agree to disagree.

Slyde said...

sounds like you are in the middle of it, all right.

some fights, there will be no winner... simple as that.

Ruggy13 said...

Good questions... i think when you start not being happy on a daily basis and don't see a lite in sight... that's, i think, when the line gets drawn..

Good luck

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